November 4, 2020
Have you ever looked back at something in your life and you WISH you had one of those DeLoreans to go back and give yourself some advice?
If you’re pregnant right now – we’ve got a taste of some time travel for you.
There is a lot to consider when you’re a newly pregnant mom… having all the latest gadgets, the nursery fixed up, whether to have a gender reveal or find out the gender at all, and so on. While all those things are fine and dandy, there are also things you may not consider in the midst of the excitement.
This is what I want to share with you… advice for newly pregnant moms from moms with newborns.
Before reading any further, keep in mind that every pregnancy is different so some of the advice may not be suitable for your situation. In hindsight, take these tips with a grain of salt and don’t hesitate to make adjustments as you see fit.
“I wish I took time to get away.”
I’ve talked to lots of moms who say if they could go back, they would have planned an “expecting vaca” before getting too big.
I would have to firmly agree as I opted out of going on a nice vacation until after the baby arrived, and you can probably imagine how that went. Don’t hesitate to get away with your partner or even with a group of friends. Planning a trip will be much different with a little one in tow!
“I wish I really embraced every baby kick.”
In the beginning it’s really exciting to feel your baby fluttering around, and then something tends to happen during the third trimester. Those twists, turns, and full blown kicks aren’t so comforting anymore. Even then, embrace them. Being pregnant goes by so fast so cherish each of those moments that you get to feel your precious bundle move.
“I wish I started building a support team early.”
This works much like planning a wedding. Upon hearing the news that you’re expecting, some people closest to you may assume that they’ll have a hand in planning gender reveals, baby showers, and even be present during labor and delivery. To help cut back on any confusion and hurt feelings, it’s wiser to intentionally start building your support team early, including labor support like a doula, as well as delegate any reveals and showers to specific people.
“I wish I researched all the baby things & choose what *I* wanted.”
Although you’re a newly pregnant mom, you don’t have to take everyone’s advice. People will tell you that a certain diaper is best or a particular crib is what you need. The truth of the matter is you really don’t need as much as you think. Majority of moms with newborns and toddlers said they ended up re-selling, donating, or storing a lot of what they thought they needed. While it may sound good to have all the things, you may rarely use them.
“I wish I asked for and accepted more help.”
This is more for once you’ve had the baby, but you may find yourself wanting a little help as it gets closer to arrival time. Don’t hesitate to get your friends and family involved before the baby arrives. Recruit help for getting the nursery ready, doing a few loads of laundry, or stockpiling your freezer with meals. You’ll appreciate all this help (and may even be a little spoiled by it).
Overall, when you’re a newly pregnant mom, you probably don’t want to miss a thing or get anything “wrong.”
Try not to worry yourself more than enjoying the phases of growing a baby and embracing what your new journey has to offer. Enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and fall in love everyday with your baby.